“The more you act like a lady, the more he'll act like a gentleman.” ~ Sydney Biddle Barrows

Hey all,


I have become painfully aware of how this blog makes me look. The pride filled / self conscious Leo in me, which I put to sleep with large amounts of sedatives before writing this blog has awoken teeth bared and claws ready to gouge eyes. 

So this weeks topic shall be GENTLEMEN
I have come to report that gallantry is not dead!!
Every girl likes a bad boy, a diamond in the rough, an untamed stallion ect ect
and heres why:

(James Dean- Image of an original bad boy)

 1) To be a hero, chase the bad guy, and save the girl, you have to have what it takes; manly characteristics, resourcefulness, and a willingness to do whatever it takes, even break a few laws. Heroes act before thinking, exactly what bad boys are known for.

 2) Good girls live under a heavy burden of expectations, always doing the right thing, saying the right thing and being pleasing. It's nice to simply not care and relax. 

Basically, bad boys are equivalent to a full body massage and few shots of tequila.

3) Good girls are pleasers and bad boys are takers, perfect example of opposites attract or yin and yang. Good girls have a natural instinct to give and nurture and not think twice about expecting anything back. The bad boy may also require a little extra nurturing, making her feel needed and wanted.

4) Good girls find the good in everyone and she finds the hurt little boy behind his bad boy facade. When she is with this guy, she is always thinking she will be the one to help him.

5) Bad boys tend to be better looking- they put more effort into their appearance because they need to compensate for the lack of inner beauty.

6) Bad boys are good at attracting an audience- they have all the right superficial characteristics (boyish, assertive, mysterious) that seem exciting and alluring for a quick pick-me-up.

7) Bad boys make women feel sexy, exciting, and free. 

8) Bad boys make their own rules and Good girls feel secretly confined by rules. Societal etiquette and the like, is horrible to a good girl and finding someone who lives by their own rules is liberating.

OK

So as much as this is all interesting, I’m not falling for it.

A Gentleman shows characteristics that bring out and nourish a woman's best characteristics. As much as bad boys are lovely, the satisfaction of being in the company of someone who opens a door for you or insists on a lady “going first” is unbelievable.

So what is “being a knight in shining armour / gentleman” ?

(Fred Astair, a Gentlemen)

Courage: today’s Knight in shining armour must have the courage of the heart necessary to undertake tasks which are difficult, tedious or unglamorous, and to graciously accept the sacrifices involved.
Mercy:creating a sense of peace and community, rather than engendering hostility and antagonism.

Generosity: Sharing what’s valuable in life means not just giving away material goods, but also time, attention, wisdom and energy

Faith: a knight in shining armor is always faithful to his or her promises, no matter how big or small they may be.
Nobility: the importance of upholding one’s convictions at all times, especially when no one else is watching.
Hope: positive outlook and cheerful demeanour — the shining armor that shields him or her, and inspires people all around.


I am aware that this sounds like a ridiculously tall order, but i think that for gentlemen (and ladies) these characteristics are innate and like coolness you can't force it, it's just there.

AND THIS IS WHY I WLL TAKE A GENTLEMAN OVER A BAD BOY ANY DAY:

-a GENTLEMAN will make you feel special 

-a GENTLEMAN will make you feel respected

-a GENTLEMAN will be interested in your ideas and opinions

-a GENTLEMAN will chat with you

-a GENTLEMAN is hesitant and not ridiculously confident

On a completely different note

LOOK AT THE SIZE OF THIS KETTLE!!! IMAGINE HOW MANY CUPS OF TEA YOU COULD HAVE WITH THIS MOTHER (12 to be exact)

goodbye tea lovers, post your favourite tea pots if it suits you

xoxox